During those days when I was pursuing in my degree and also on my career, I get alot of questions on how did I manage?
Yes, I have to admit that I did almost went crazy but thank god I am still living fine and still sane...(for the time being, haaa!)
I was stressed like a crazy monkey as no.1, being on the second year of degree is where comes all the crazy assignments you needed to accomplished and no.2, I am so so so new, knowing nothing about the entertainment industry AND what not, no.3, I'm an English educated banana making her debut in the CHINESE music market. Great.
I remembered the most stressful moments were when I needed to choose between work and studies.
One of my tour events clashing with the group assignment video shooting days. Shyt.
Not attending classes when I was involved in some theater performances for almost a month. (This was the worst)
And...whenever I received an email regarding any schedules from my company, I eventually FREAK OUT. Why? Simple. I needed to google translate the whole entire email as I was so afraid I would missed out any info they required me to prepare.
However, eventually, everything became fine and yes, I am able to text in chinese language now. 呵呵，是不是很厉害？hahah *just kidding*
And beyond all those, How on earth did I stay sane?
1) GIVE YOURSELF A TIMEOUT
Yes. When every single thing clashes and BOOM, feeling like the end of the world, I went away.
No, being away doesn't mean avoiding all the problems and running away from all the unsettled things to be done, but taking a half day off going somewhere peaceful and far.
Well, I didn't have the time to go somewhere far, so instead, I went to someplace peaceful for myself and only myself.
Whether it was taking a walk in a park, playing with the swing or even treating myself few scoops of yummy ice creams.
Then, when your mind has been calmed down and you have a clearer version of what to do first, I'll start back up again.
2) AVOID ASKING "WHAT IF"
I avoided negative formulated questions that creeps to my mind every now and then. I avoided asking, "What if this is couldn't be done on time?" "What if it doesn't work out?" "What if this...." "What if that..."
If you kept thinking this way, yes. 99.9% you'll drive yourself crazy anytime soon.
3) CRY IT OUT, LAUGH IT OUT
When it comes to the time that you are surrounded with cannons and shot guns pointing at you. Don't refrain. Cry it out.
Initially, I'd always thought crying was for the weak. I NEVER really cry. Well, at least not in front of any one, or at least not for something that was not worthy to be crying for.
But I WAS WRONG.
Crying helps you release all the stuffed and suffocated emotion inside you. Whether or not you think it is unnecessarily to cry, if you feel like crying, just do it.
From that onwards, I never hide my emotions much. Being more true to myself and yes, ignore what people would think of me.
And there you have those buddies who were always there for you and after you cry, I'll usually laugh it out.
It may sound alittle crazy crying and then laughing, but trust me, you'll feel so much more light-weighted!
Okay, I know this may sound alittle ridiculous for a 22-year old to actually say this but yes. Breathing helps.
Deep focused breathings allows you to feel more grounded, bringing you back to the present moment and lower your stress level.
Take a 10 minute everyday to just focus on your breathing or even a higher level of focusing, which is, meditation.
5) ASK FOR HELP
Last but not least,
Don't be shy to ask for help. There are more experienced people out there that you can learn from and they had been through all the hell stressful times that you're going through right now.
At least, they'll guide you and comfort you better. =)
In the end of the day, I'm still grateful on whatever happens and I'm glad I've been through all those hard times.
There will be even more obstacles ahead of me, I believe. Yet, I'm ready to take up the challenge and go for it!
Singing was my dream, still is and always will be. I'll continuing striving till the end no matter how hard it takes.
Will you stay with me?